Surviving trauma through love

Surviving trauma through love

Surviving chronic ilness through love: The fourth quality you need when living with a chronic illness  is love. Without love there would be no healing. This brings me to the question; what is love? Because of having lived with a rare neurological condition for the past 15 years, my definition of love has expanded. Love used to be a warm fuzzy feeling. It used to be happiness. It used to be acceptance. It used to be joy. It used to be laughter. But today it means that and a whole lot more. Love means time. It means giving of your time not for a few minutes or for a few hours but for days, weeks months and years. It means being there for your loved one when they are at their lowest point in life. It means wiping their tears and soothing their pain. It means knowing who your loved one truly is even when no one else does. It means quitting your job to take care of your loved one. It means going to work to take care of your loved one. It means being an advocate for your loved one when he/she isn’t able to advocate for themselves. Love means not giving up on your loved one. It means sitting by their side to calm their sorrow, pain and fear. Love means searching for answers. Love means not going with the crowd when you know it’s wrong. Love means standing your ground. Love means accepting the truth. Love means becoming humble. Love means downsizing if you have to save your loved ones life. Love means finding a new path for your loved one if they are unhappy, bullied, or ostracized. Love means going the distance. It means never losing hope. It means believing. It means validating your loved one. Love means letting go of your expectations. Love means compassion. Love means accepting the person in whatever state they may be in. Love is value. Love is a choice. Love is doing the hard thing because it is the right thing. Love is a kiss and a hug. Love is a well meaning thought and wish. Love is healing. Love is kind. Love is powerful. Love is mom. Love is dad. Love is sister. Love is brother. Love is family. Love is friend. Love is God.

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All the best,
Alanna Wong
p.s. If you haven’t read the introductory section of my book about my 13 year battle with Kleine-Levin Syndrome, you can read it here: 



  1. Fred Grooms says:

    Above all else love is a choice, and sometime choices are hard to make.

  2. Susan Brady says:

    Beautifully written Alanna – LOVE is whatever is needed at the moment – it can change our vibration in a split second.
    Everyone has their own definition – you have identified and articulated this so well.

  3. Judy Garey says:

    Beautiful post Alanna!

  4. So lovingly said! This is what love truly is. I’ll never forget when my husband shattered his leg and we spent weeks with him unable to do anything for himself — that’s when love kicks in. Thank you for gently reminding me how incredible love really is.

  5. Candy oftebro says:

    I love this! Well written, insightful and thought provoking!!!l. Keep up the great work!

  6. Alanna, you have articulated love in the depths of its meaning. It is definitely more than a feeling. It is love in action during the highs and lows, never giving up. Thank you for this powerful description for us all to follow.

  7. Randy Wong says:

    I am very proud that you are my daughter. You have helped teach me what things in life are really important. Thanks for being you, Love Dad

  8. Liz Jones says:

    Love is so important 🙂 so happy for you!

  9. Terri says:

    I’m glad I have had the opportunity to be a small part of your journey with KLS and how you incorporate it into a fulfilling life where you touch so many lives. The topic you have chosen to write about is not easy to articulate or even talk about, but you do it with ease. I hope your journey in life continues to be bright!

  10. haz says:

    They say love is blind. I like your different descriptions of love.

  11. Christine Stock says:

    Wundervoll geschrieben!
    Danke Alanna

  12. april says:

    what a beautifully written post, alanna. thank you for outlining the true meaning of love – love that goes to the depths. (and i “loved” the comment from your dad!)

  13. Reena Tory says:

    beautiful post. 🙂

  14. Minista says:

    YES… Love is GOD! Thank you so much for this blog. Keep inspiring. We need your light. 🙂

  15. Cathy says:

    WOW! Because of a TBI on top of many other issues due to an auto accident, YOU put what I have wanted to say for years. Not being able to express yourself is very frustrating! It makes me happy to hear of someone who has a “lemon” life, yet has had support and love to some extent. That isn’t the norm, unfortunately, and I could always count on God and my husband (but he is human too, but gladly downsized, etc… to make our life easier and happier!). I have 2.5 friends who have make my life as easy as possible in the past 12 years. I like what you said, because it’s more on the positive side. Sometimes my husband and I talk about what we have learned about Human Nature over the past years. Which is humbling, too! As you are most likely aware, those who have good emotional support, are those who do much better, and heal better (as in my case). My doctors were so frustrated at the beginning, as they knew I would not get well unless I had the support I needed, and it wasn’t there. Those that suck you dry, you have to learn to limit your time with them. And those who are uplifting, and you can uplift them, are those who are the greatest people. A two way street. I’m always thankful for those who can see beyond the mask, and care! May I share this post on my wordpress site? Thank you so much!

  16. Mike Marryat says:

    Great post Alanna! Love is what makes the world go round. Without it…we have nothing!

  17. Greg Mock says:

    Powerful story and cause Alanna. Keep shouting it from the rooftop. I can see from the comment that you are a positive impact for those who suffer physically and emotionally. Love your post!

  18. Judy Garey says:

    I know I’ve already commented however just wanted to say it again… beautiful story. 🙂

  19. Nate says:

    Hi Alanna,

    Wow powerful all around post! Sometimes the decisions that we make in life are not always the easiest. Thank you for enlighten us with your post. Have a great week Alanna!

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